Transaction analysis

Analysis of Transaction

or in other words: The ability to recognize different personalities and get to the real person behind.

Again and again my friends ask me: "Peter, you speak often of your books, you've written for your exam in college. Can we also read these books?"

Well ... these books are written in German. But to my Spanish friends, I will begin to translate the most important issues.

We started with this theme: "The states different from the" Ego "

On each occasion when different people come together, we can observe how the behavior of these changes, within a single conservation. No (real) control, different emotional reactions are triggered how are you: Consent - Participation of feelings - positive encouragement for sentiment ... but also ... Review of the words are - total rejection - condescending comments - simply destructive.

It is likely that also takes the right person within the position itself as verbal communication. In this situation the first scheme can be recognized. The person remains impartial and emotional distance - this would be a one person is ego (major) or the person behaves stubbornly away from reality - it would be a child Ego.

Now we have two new concepts: The Ego and the Ego major child. It is thought, the emotional state that dominates the person in question, at this time.

We can see now that these two states of the Ego can be caused simply by a conversation with another person.

The transaction starts right now ... we want to analyze.

This is lafórmula for that: Transaction = Action + Reaction

Therefore: All we say (action) --- causes a reaction with the person who hears these words (reaction). A specialist could get a reaction with pointed words he has designed before. This would be pure manipulation of a person.

A better understanding, here's an example: We come to a club .... an exclusive club, a doorman who screen people very accurately, before the entry. Now provoke a reaction, with an effect even before we know .... We do this with the following words: "Hey guys .... how .... sorry for you if you had our format, you could also inside ..... party and you would have to be here the watchdog." We do not need much imagination to suspect the reaction. The goalkeeper will not be our best friend, after the words ... safe!

This is the system of the transaction - and it works naturally in many other occasions. If we use the right words, we can project before each reaction. Then this is the perfect handling for us. The affected person will not notice at all that she was manipulated .... she is too busy with emotional attacks.

Now in the analysis must be found which model is used as a reaction Ego.

There are three basic models of ego:

The parents learned Ego - Standards and performance of the Ego usadas.el parental education are children - children's lives and experiences, will appear in this as reacción.el Simulated Ego - away from the other models of self (this is like in a theater mask) .. quisera well be ... but my real Ego is another.

Describe the emergence and the respective effect of these Egos later.

With this knowledge and appreciation of the role of the transaction are the following questions:

- 1. How business can use this "manipulation"?

- 2. How do I recognize the "words of encouragement" manipulated correct for a reaction? .... my favors.

- 3. Does each person has equal reaction, or are there differences?

- 4. Do you have to also cause various reactions, to a desired result?

- 5. What if the person noted that she was manipulated?

Here are the answers:

for 1. = A specialist of the transaction, the communication form according to their wishes without that person looks at the manipulation. This brings the total success.

for 2. = You have to learn how to use a piano ... there are special courses.

for 3. = As differently as people, are so differently reactions.

for 4. = The man always used several variations specialized ... different emotions are incited so - but all with the same goal.

For 5. = This will occur only rarely if emotions were activated properly. Because the other person is too busy with his own emotions. If it happens though: laugh and then just treated it all as a joke ..... incredible, but this really helps. It must be said that something was done wrong. A new strategy (encouraging words) should be used to have success later.

It all appears to us as a game ......

Yes, it's a game ... is the game of our lives ... it is quite the same if we understand the transaction or not .... in each communication with one another our emotions are influenced, often without any control. But here we controlled the effect of emotions and feelings ... controlled the leadership of a person, just words. Naturally these skills must be learned and be trained. Because, nothing comes nothing.

But the possibilities are amazing ..... and people with this training are much questions ... these are the directors of the future.